Supporting a Friend with Low Confidence

imgresHow to be a friend to someone with low confidence.

A great topic suggestion from Anne-Marie, who’s friend is suffering from a bout of low confidence. So what can she do to help her friend through this period of low confidence?

By first focusing on the language that both of you use, you can help them find areas in which they do have confidence. This kind of support will help your friend recognise that there are good parts and not everything is doom and gloom.

Although your friend might not have confidence in a specific task, helping them recognise their own self belief can be critical to helping them through a difficult time.

Confidence is based on being certain, to a degree, of an outcome. No matter how inconsequential it might seem. Taking baby steps can really lead to big changes over time.

With your support, your friend will have the choice to make small changes everyday so that in a few weeks, months or maybe years they will be in a better place. If they start making those changes now.

Listen to the podcast to find out how to change your focus and give you the strength to move forward.

Have you helped a friend through a period of low confidence? What worked for you and more importantly your friend? Leave a comment below or use our feedback page

5 Things That Will Make You Achieve Your 2012 Goals…or Not

Success beyond the obstacles

It may be arbitrary but the turn of a new year is a perfect opportunity to set a plan for what you want to experience, create, have and do over the next 12 months.

Part of what spurns us on to thinking about our future is the middle of December to early January, for most, is a time where we have time less time at work and spend more time with friends and family. This end of year cycle is a perfect catalyst for reconnecting with what matters most.

But knowing what matters (or what you want to achieve) and making it so are wildly different things.

Having spent a huge portion of my adult life investigating what makes the difference between ‘those who achieve what they want’ and ‘those who try but don’t, or don’t really try at all’, I’ve learnt that 99% of the time it comes down to five factors.Continue reading

Taking care of YOU

For many of us, spending time helping others is second nature. We willingly sacrifice our own priorities and needs, and give more to others than we do for ourselves.

In this podcast, Gina and Chris discuss ways to make sure you do keep a healthy balance of taking care of yourself, while still being strong, supportive and available for your friends and colleagues.

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Do You Take Your Own Advice?

As coaches, we are skilled in helping other people gain clarity, build self-belief, take action and generally find ways to consistently and constantly make progress towards their desired life. Of course, you don’t have to be a certified coach to be able to help other people do the same. We all, at times, offer our sound judgement, advice, support or guidance to friends, colleagues and family members.

Yet, how often do you follow your own advice to others?

Do you find yourself telling colleagues they should leave the office on time and get home to more important things while you stick around just a bit longer to write ‘just one more email’?

Have you told a particularly stressed friend that they really ought to take a break and treat themselves to an afternoon at a spa or R&R in the local park, while your common stress-busting strategy is to just keep fighting through it?

Do you and your partner often discuss how great it would be to take in more of the cultural treats and opportunities that your area of the country offers, only to see another six months pass without Continue reading

Creating your own Boilerplate for life

Recently I joined a local business networking group. It’s a good way to get to know other local businesses and exchange a few referrals. It’s also a really good support group for developing your own business strategy. One of the things we all do at this group is give a 60 second review of our business. Some people call this an elevator speech. Previously I would normally make up my 60 seconds on the fly, as I’m quite happy to ad lib and sometimes the pressure results in a few amusing points that wouldn’t have come out in a totally prepared speech.

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Giving Your Support

Helping others is something we do almost every day, but occasionally we have a friend, family member or partner that needs some extra special attention. Paul and Gina talk about providing support for someone by just being there and giving them the most precious gift of all, your time.

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A Fix For A Fixer

After a recent request for topics, I was given a request by one of my friends and listeners.

“Ok. here is something that I can use some help with. I’m a ‘fixer’ I like to help as much as possible. The problem is that my wife has cancer and this is something I can’t fix. I want to help but not sure what I can do other than being supportive (which to me isn’t enough). So can you advise a fix for a fixer?”

Sam and I (Paul) talked about the topic and both thought it through for a week before recording this podcast. It was quite different to our normal ones, but I hope you find it interesting.

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