Are you sabotaging your dreams?

Self-sabotage may be at play, and if it is, the chances are you might not even realise it… but you might notice the effects it has on your attempts to achieve your goals and dreams.

Can you relate to the feeling of:

  • Making things harder for yourself than they need to be?
  • Allowing yourself to be distracted by something other than your priority?
  • Punishing yourself when something isn’t perfect?
  • Taking on too much when you know you can’t fit everything in?

Sometimes sabotage can show up in a way that obviously affects our goals, and other times it can show up more subtly. Continue reading

Don’t Should On Yourself

Yes, it’s that familiar twinge of guilt… the nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach, the one subject that’s going to make you procrastinate for sure. The almighty ‘Should’.

Apparently, psychologist Clayton Barbeau gave the world the oft-used ‘shoulding all over yourself’, taken to a more below-the belt conclusion by another couch potato – clearly a big Freud fan – who dubbed it ‘musterbation’.

But whatever moniker you give this feeling, if you’re anything like me, once the dread word ‘should’ enters your brain you have a sudden indescribable urge to do exactly the opposite. Or put it off for weeks, nay months, even years for the more stubborn ‘delayers’ among us.

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Procrastination is the thief of time

THIS WAS ONE OF MY mother’s favourite sayings when I was a child. She had a whole repertoire of helpful clichés. Quite whether this particular homily from Edward Young was rhetorical, or she was directing her sageness at me, I can’t remember. But it was a phrase that clearly stuck in my mind. And although I hate to admit it, I’m certainly a procrastinator now. Even more worrying, I seem to have become even more intimately acquainted with the ‘P’ word as I’ve got older.

So, in an attempt to explore, and gently knock my deferral habit on the head once and for all (maybe a childhood fall from a horse is where it did, in fact, all go terribly wrong) here are my thoughts and findings on the whole Procrastination Phenomenon… Continue reading