The Myth of Confidence

We love getting topic suggestions! And this one from Libby was posted on our Facebook pageThe Myth of Confidence

Hey guys I just have a small question that maybe could be addressed…. I know you have done podcasts in the past with regards to confidence in scary situations both personal and professional, but are there any tricks for removing limited beliefs and self doubt?? I understand that the switch needs to be made from negative to positive thought patterns, especially in scary situations which have to be addressed… I think it’s to do with self belief and I know the theory but I’m still struggling to ‘get there’ in terms of strong self confidence, which I think could be one of the things holding me back from my desires and goals….

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Perfect in our imperfections

As someone who has suffered through the effects of perfectionism most of my life, it was really liberating to write out a mantra recently that epitomises a more nurturing (and effective) alternative:

“This is pretty good; I think I’ll keep going.”

This one came from [amazon ASIN=”0330343580″]The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron[/amazon], and is one of many affirmations, techniques and perspectives that have helped me loosen the grip of perfectionism that had stopped me achieving much, let alone my best.

I know the other ActionCoaches have also struggled with the need to be perfect from time to time, so here is a collection of some of our top insights into how to live a more effective and fulfilled lifeContinue reading

The Words and Thoughts That Cost You the Most

Just like the financial loss of a unattended credit card debt or an unused monthly membership, whether you realise it or not, you are paying a significant price for some of your thoughts and words.

It’s a concept you’ve probably never considered, but the payoff is huge.

Which thoughts and words?

The most expensive words you’ll ever utter are the excuses you use to rationalise not doing the things you know need to be done.Continue reading

Be Anything But Perfect

Are you a perfectionist? Do you spend hours labouring over presentations that should only take you 30 minutes? Do you often feel you can’t write that book, have that relationship or find the job you love until you are somehow better than you are? The limiting belief inside most perfectionists is a lack of self-belief and low self-esteem. A limiting belief that you are simply not good enough. Chris and Gina discuss the warning signs and what you can do to be successful – even when you’re not perfect.

The Danger of Comparisons

Do you often compare yourself to others – then find your self-esteem plummeting? As Shakespeare himself said: ‘Comparisons are odious’. Why? Because there will always be someone taller, thinner, more beautiful and more successful than us.
The media has a lot to answer for – take a look at the insidious beauty industry and women’s magazines. When did you last pick up a glossy and feel good about yourself? Quite. Dove have successfully poked fun at the beauty industry in their brilliant ad campaigns. Check out this short video to see how the magazine designers airbrush models to death – to make them look ‘perfect’. It’s all Photoshop – in reality these models don’t ‘exist’.

Tricks of the magazine trade

In today’s podcast, Paul and Gina look at ways we can combat the ‘comparison game’ and come out on top.

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