Viral Happiness: new YouTube video

What if happiness was contagious? A viral kind of thing.

Where performing a small act of kindness or compassion can not only make us happy, but that kindness can make someone else feel happy too…

Latest research shows that happiness IS contagious. And that one small act of kindness can not only spread happiness to those 2 people, but to the friends of friends of both those people. How cool is that?!

Creating happiness is also a skill that can be learnt, despite being hard to define – as we’ll each have our own unique definitions.

One thing it is not, is a final destination to be arrived at. It is something we all seek continuously, yet we don’t always achieve; and there are times when we can feel decidedly unhappy.

Are we looking in the wrong places? Or maybe focusing on the wrong things?Continue reading

Summer Book Series #7 Special: Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High with Ron McMillan

Find free resources at www.CrucialConversations.com

When high stakes, opposing  opinions and strong emotion come together, you know you’ve entered the realms of Crucial Conversations!

Not only are you facing a difficult discussion, but your body is wired to shut down the reasoning part of your brain so that you react rather than consider your responses – and for most of us this means we do our worst at these moments. Ironically, these Crucial Conversations are the 10% of our conversations that are also the most important.

The book [amazon ASIN=”0071401946″]Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High[/amazon] is one of the most important resources in my personal toolkit and I am delighted to be able to share this interview, with one of its co-authors Ron McMillan, with you today.

“If you can create safety, you can talk to almost anyone about almost anything, and they will thank you rather than being angry with you.”

Join me [Sam] as I interview Ron about the incredible impact these skills can have for transforming our relationships, the consequences of trying to ignore Crucial Conversations, and some tips for how we can:

  • Recognise when we’re in or entering Crucial Conversations.
  • Start improving, even if we are naturally conflict avoidant!
  • Learn a few simple techniques that we can start applying to immediately improve our ability to create safety in Crucial Conversations.

Fantastic free tools and resources are available at CrucialConversations.com.Continue reading

The Value of Love

How much do you think all your possessions are worth?

Do a quick calculation before you continue reading – even if it is just a guess off the top of your head.

This question was posed in the June 2011 issue of Psychologies Magazine, and (paraphrasing) it explains that new research* has found that when we feel loved and accepted by others, we are likely to decrease or underestimate the value of what we own because we derive a sense of protection and comfort from that love instead of needing it from our possessions.

I could rattle off a value based on my home contents insurance, but what struck me most was a comment about Continue reading

The power of be-have-DO

I was working with a client recently and no matter how I initially phrased my question on what action they wanted to take, the answer I got was: “I want to be…” or “I want to have…”

Every time I received these kinds of answers I had to remind the client that coaching is all about taking action; simply stating what you want to be or have (or feel) isn’t going to make it happen.  Only an action that you carry out will help to create your desired end result.Continue reading