Perfect in our imperfections

As someone who has suffered through the effects of perfectionism most of my life, it was really liberating to write out a mantra recently that epitomises a more nurturing (and effective) alternative:

“This is pretty good; I think I’ll keep going.”

This one came from [amazon ASIN=”0330343580″]The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron[/amazon], and is one of many affirmations, techniques and perspectives that have helped me loosen the grip of perfectionism that had stopped me achieving much, let alone my best.

I know the other ActionCoaches have also struggled with the need to be perfect from time to time, so here is a collection of some of our top insights into how to live a more effective and fulfilled lifeContinue reading

4 Ideas for Making 2011 an Extra Special Year

The turn of the year is an arbitrary but helpful moment in time to think about the next 365 days of your life. At ActionPodcast we certainly know that you can design and live the life you want, you can achieve more than you think you can, and have greater happiness than you did last year. But how will you make that happen? I know you’re wiser than hoping to win the national lottery, and of course, more money isn’t going to magically take care of all your problems.

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Don’t call me perfect…

Occasionally people fall for the myth that coaches must be perfect – that we’re extraordinary beings who radiate love and success and happiness, and have the perfect life.

That’s a nice ideal to work towards, but it is as ridiculous as it is impossible!

We are simply human – and I sometimes like to think of humanity as “perfect in our imperfection”. I might try to radiate love, but I certainly don’t manage it 100% of the time. And whilst I’m increasing the success and happiness and fulfillment in my life (& hopefully inspiring it in others), there’s a long way to go yet.Continue reading

The Danger of Comparisons

Do you often compare yourself to others – then find your self-esteem plummeting? As Shakespeare himself said: ‘Comparisons are odious’. Why? Because there will always be someone taller, thinner, more beautiful and more successful than us.
The media has a lot to answer for – take a look at the insidious beauty industry and women’s magazines. When did you last pick up a glossy and feel good about yourself? Quite. Dove have successfully poked fun at the beauty industry in their brilliant ad campaigns. Check out this short video to see how the magazine designers airbrush models to death – to make them look ‘perfect’. It’s all Photoshop – in reality these models don’t ‘exist’.

Tricks of the magazine trade

In today’s podcast, Paul and Gina look at ways we can combat the ‘comparison game’ and come out on top.

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Perfect

It’s got to be perfect! Or does it? Do you suffer from Perfectionism Paralysis? Sam and Paul talk about how to deal with wanting everything to be perfect and yet end up not doing anything at all.