Having the Energy to Do It All

With a hint of regret and a look of disappointment, a client recently revealed that she just doesn’t feel like doing much in the evenings after a day of work.

She was too tired to think, too overwhelmed to see clearly and “…just needed some ‘me’ time to unwind”.

Of course, she’s not alone.

It’s a common malaise of today’s “always on” way for many people – demands continue to rise yet our capacity to meet those demands doesn’t naturally rise along with them. This often leaves us in a deficit of time, energy and enthusiasm for what matters to us outside of work (and many important things in work too).

We would never say it’s what we think, but our behaviour often shows that part of us believes that because technology runs at high speeds, continuously, for long periods of time, then we should to.

Illogical, but the truth for many of us nonetheless.

Is there an alternative? Is it possible to break this cycle?

Of course there is.

Sometimes we just need to slow down long enough to notice, to think and to reset our perspective on where we want our energy to be directed.

The first thing to understand is that unlike machines and technology that run on one or two sources of energy (e.g. electricity, petrol), we humans run on – and need – four sources of energy.

Physical energy is the foundation. It’s the quantity of energy we have on a daily basis directly influenced by sleep, what we eat and drink, and how we exercise (or not). Without physical energy we are fairly useless to ourselves and others.

Emotional energy is the quality of our energy. We are fuelled by our emotions and how we feel profoundly influences how we perform. What’s more, we have much more control over our emotions than we give ourselves credit for.

Mental energy is where and how we direct our energy. Where does your focus tend to go? On big important things that matter most to you? Or on small, but voluminous details and minor things that keep you busy but don’t move you forward and accelerate your success. When it comes to trying to deal with all the things in our lives, it’s easy to fall into the trap of mistaking activity for productivity.

Spiritual energy is simply about having a sense of purpose and being in alignment to that purpose. That doesn’t just apply to the biggest question of all, “What is the purpose of your life?” but even on a daily basis where it’s easy to lose sight of the purpose of many of the things that requires your energy, attention and time. In the UK and other parts of Europe it’s a common expression that something, or an experience, can be “soul destroying” – a cancelled project, a task you’ve been assigned where you don’t see the point of it all, or being overloaded with demands from your boss who doesn’t see that you’re already struggling to keep your head above water.

Within these four dimensions of your energy lies every solution you need to lead a more rewarding, fulfilling, exciting, happier, healthier and purposeful life.

If you are like the thousands of smart, educated and committed people who tend to fall flat at the end of the day, or week, you need to do something differently.

It’s not the way it should be. You must stop tolerating that and seeing it as acceptable.

You should have enough energy at the end of your work day to fully engage in your personal life, friends, hobbies and activities that you enjoy.

It’s how we humans are designed and it’s what you deserve.

So as a starting point, at the end of your day, give yourself a score of 1-10. 1 is you are completely and utterly drained, 10 is you are fully energised. Score yourself on EACH of the four dimensions of energy.

The more accurately you can diagnose where your deficit currently is, the more precisely you can apply the right solution.

Having more energy isn’t just about getting more sleep or putting your feet up.

As my client began to realise, making small changes and creating new habits to expand her energy across the four dimensions creates an upward, positive and sustainable spiral of renewable energy.

Within a matter of days, she felt more energised, more focused, more engaged and more fulfilled.

And perhaps most importantly of all, she reconnected with her inner strength and capacity to take back control of her choices and her life.

Do you regularly find yourself being drained at the end of the day? What would you love to do that you don’t seem to have the energy to do? Leave a comment below and let us know and we will provide suggestions and strategies in upcoming podcasts and blog posts. Or pop your feedback on our Facebook page.

How to Overcome Your Plateau

Every now and again we seem to get less out of the effort we put in.

It happens with our health and fitness, in relationships and in careers.

Is this natural? Normal? Does it happen more than you like?

In this podcast Paul and Chris discuss how to recognise a plateau, what happens when they show up, plus provide three solid strategies for overcoming plateaus in any context.

1. Refresh

Sometimes just a bit of variety, fun and mixing it up can be enough to challenge your status quo and motivate you to the next level of progress or fulfillment.

2. Re-engage

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut at times and lose sight of why you’re there in the first place. Feelings of overwhelm by the amount of work to be done, burdened by the responsibilities, and perhaps even experiencing hopelessness that things will improve. In this case it can be very helpful to step back and reconnect with what you really want and why you want it. Paul and Chris share exactly how to do this.

3. Re-evaluate

As creatures of habits we will quickly fall into a regular pattern or regular approach to trying to achieve what we want. We hit the same machines at the gym, manage a project in the same process or deal with our partners in the same way. However, those habits may be the exact reason why you’re experiencing the plateau in the first place. Re-evaluating your approach, your process and your usual way of doing things can shed new light on your challenge and give you alternatives you hadn’t thought of before.

Listen to this podcast now and join the conversation with a comment below or on our Facebook page.

The Value of Things

Ever wondered why we can happily spend £200 on something, and then bemoan the £5 cost of something else a short while later?

The types of things we are willing to spend more money on will vary for each of us (e.g. think gadgets, clothes, car, or entertainment), and this is based on more than just the retail value of the product or service.

For the next 30 seconds, think about the main things you spend the most money on and write a short list. You should be able to come up with 3-5 things pretty easily. Include things that you may not purchase very frequently, but that you spend a fair bit on when you do.

I really encourage you to record them in some way – because there’s a lot this list can tell you!

Dr John Demartini talks about the correlation between what we spend our money on, and what our values are.

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5 Things That Will Make You Achieve Your 2012 Goals…or Not

Success beyond the obstacles

It may be arbitrary but the turn of a new year is a perfect opportunity to set a plan for what you want to experience, create, have and do over the next 12 months.

Part of what spurns us on to thinking about our future is the middle of December to early January, for most, is a time where we have time less time at work and spend more time with friends and family. This end of year cycle is a perfect catalyst for reconnecting with what matters most.

But knowing what matters (or what you want to achieve) and making it so are wildly different things.

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What if your problem isn’t the problem?

It’s an inevitable part of being human: facing challenges, resolving issues, dealing with problems.

These often unpleasant and uncomfortable parts of our life can attract a lot of our attention. They can absorb a lot of our energy and take us away from other things that are more rewarding, important and fulfilling.

Perhaps recently you’ve been spending an extraordinary amount of your time on a problem.

How can you tell if it’s just a symptom you’ve been focusing on?

But what if the attention you’re giving it is misguided?

What if your energy is being wasted?

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Body Wisdom

Our bodies influence how we think and feel in a way that goes beyond “gut instinct”. There is much wisdom in our physical being, yet we often remain oblivious to it, or even worse, railroad over it regardless. So what does it cost us to ignore the messages that millions of our own cells are giving us?

Today, I’ve been out-of-sorts (or crabbit, as they call it up here!) all day, feeling lethargic and even a bit nauseous… not to mention having trouble concentrating. Why? Largely because I chose to ignore what my body was telling me during the last 24hrs. Continue reading

Teething Pains

Trying to do something new for the first time can be daunting, and even once you get started it can still feel downright difficult. Whether it is trying to turn your hand to a new skill at work, put a new habit in place or do what’s needed to adjust to change, it can be painful regardless of whether it is something you want to do or not.

Have you recently started something new, or been hesitating from taking the plunge?

Paul & Sam explore different ways of dealing with the teething pains of trying a new challenge, and how you can let them be helpful rather than harmful. Take your pick of perspective shifts to either motivate, strengthen or sign-post you along the way!

The most overlooked part of the success equation

The path to success often means MORE. More health, more money, more time with family, more promotions, more holidays, more ‘more’.

Our society seems to relentlessly push us to want more and need more. “Do more with less” is a common mantra in today’s businesses, cutbacks in staff means to continue on the path of ‘getting ahead’ you simply need to put your head down, nose to the grindstone and work harder. All in the name of more. However, there is another side.

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Time to spring clean your mind

Spring is a time of new beginnings and growth. It’s also time to get rid of old things that are no longer needed and welcome fresh new additions. Usually, that applies to cleaning up your home – that avoidable cupboard, spare room or putting away the winter gear. But what about spring cleaning your life and your mind?

Our minds are much like our homes.  They both get cluttered. They fill up with bits and bobs we no longer want or need. Both benefit from a regular cleaning out of stuff that we collected for one reason, and are holding onto out of habit, neglect, or just delusion it’s still the right thing to do.Continue reading

The power of morning habits

We all have habits that we repeat on a daily basis. Some help us and get us going in the direction we want, while some (…unbeknownst to us…) prevent us from experiencing the happiness and fulfillment we truly deserve.

What you do in the first 20 minutes can set you up for a great day…or an unfulfilled day. Are you aware of your morning habits?

In this podcast Paul and Chris discuss how to create powerful morning habits and ways to overcome the negative habits that you no longer want. Both of which can have a dramatic influence on your daily success.