An Alternative Approach to New Year Resolutions

There are dozens of ways to kick start a new year with greater focus, purpose and enthusiasm for the year ahead. Guru_Mindmap

Spending time to reprioritise, set goals or new year resolutions, plan experiences can – and should – be very liberating and energising. However, our experience shows that the BEST way to make sure your plans become reality, is to aim to build momentum quickly. To kick start in January with consistent action, no matter how small.

In this podcast, Paul and Chris discuss specific ideas and tools to not only allow you to start the year running but also to open up your mind, and get in the right mindset for thinking creatively, clearly and purposefully.

The holiday time is the perfect time to carve out quiet time for some honestly reflection on your previous year and step back from the day-to-day grind, to reboot your inner computer and allow yourself to dream again.

Here are a few tools to get you started…





Creating Momentum- The Fuel to Motivation


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In the goal setting process, the key to accomplishing things is to know how to create momentum. Creating momentum is essentially taking that first step that will begin a series of actions, which will help you to work on your goals continuously despite any challenges and roadblocks you might encounter. You may have come to realise by now that the hardest part of getting something done is actually taking the first step, but like all things, you accomplish your goals by taking it step by step.

Why do You Need to be Motivated?

Having enough motivation is important for creating momentum, because if you don’t want to accomplish something enough, then you probably won’t be willing to exert sufficient effort to accomplish it. Motivation is an emotion, which encourages you to act, thus pushing you forward despite your hesitations and excuses. This momentum will lead you to continue working harder. So what happens when you aren’t motivated? It’s going to be tough for you to accomplish things, and all your efforts in goal setting might go to waste if you don’t find the energy to get going.

How to Create Momentum

Creating momentum is done by taking things gradually. The first step is to create a clear vision of the outcome you are after. Begin with the end in mind, because you can easily lose track of your goals if you don’t. When you have determined your end goal and made a plan to accomplish it, you need to muster enough courage to take action right away. Success grows on success, so start with a small goal that you can easily accomplish in a few days. As soon as you get started, your momentum kicks in and you will notice that things will begin to flow. Taking the first step is the hardest part but once you make the first move, the following steps are easier to follow.

Once you’ve created momentum for one plan, it doesn’t mean that momentum will last forever for all your other goals. It’s normal for you to have down times, and when this happens, the key is to know how to start the momentum building process all over again. You need to concentrate on becoming good at starting and restarting,

Tips for Creating Momentum

There are a number of things that can stop your momentum. Here are some tips that can help you restart again during your goal setting process. Remember, it is all about pushing yourself to accomplish the first step. After that, everything else follows, as long as you remember your goals.

  • Determine if you have strong enough reasons to proceed with a particular goal.
  • Do you have motivation to complete this goal? You have to really want your desired end result, because if you don’t have the drive you simply won’t achieve it. It just means that it’s not a worthy goal.
  • Discover what drives   is it a challenge, a competition, or perhaps a realisation that you’re not getting any younger?
  • Learn how to act upon your goals, even when you aren’t in the mood. Promise to work on something for just 20 minutes, you’ll be amazing how easy it becomes to take action.
  • Create a back-up plan that will prevent you from giving lousy excuses when you’re not in the mood to work on your goals. For instance, what should you do if you’re too tired to spend time with your family? Is reading your child a bedtime for only 10 minutes really enough? What about a quick dinner with your partner?

Keep in mind that it isn’t easy to juggle loads of goals at once. If you have too many goals, you may end up not accomplishing any of them, which is why you have to take things step by step. Focus on the top 3 goals that you want to prioritise, and then pick the most important one for you. At the same time, only work on ONE goal a time and don’t move on to the next until you’ve made progress on the first.


The Importance of Tracking Your Progress in Goal Setting

the start of my very own stock photo collection for presentations I once had a client who came to me because he wanted help to create more time to spend with his family.

He’s a business executive who spends a lot of time in the office; he even works at weekends. For his initial goal, we agreed that he should try to leave at least one night – every fortnight – that was totally dedicated to his wife and kids.

I met him again two months later. When I asked him about his assignment, he sheepishly admitted that he didn’t remember if he’d actually made any progress. I asked him if he remembered spending time with his wife. He said ‘yes’, but he couldn’t actually remember the date, or even how much time he spent with her.Continue reading

The Most Important Question You Will Ever Ask

As a coach it’s my job to ask the questions that help my clients resolve a problem, achieve a goal or see something from a new perspective.

What is the question?

Recently I was delighted to be able to coach someone for a TV show. Gok Wan is a hugely popular body confidence and fashion guru. On his show last night I was seen coaching a young gay man who needed help boosting his confidence. You only see me on screen for about 30 seconds, but during my slot I ask Daniel what he’d like to get out of the session.

“By the end of this coaching session, what do you want to achieve and take away with you?”

Why do you need to ask this question?

This is a normal question to ask, and the reasons behind it may already be obvious to you. But just in case let’s break it down and see why it’s the most important question you could ever ask.

  1. It starts off the conversation by clearly understanding its purpose.
  2. It gives you a chance to mark where you are now so that you can compare it with where you feel you have reached at the end.
  3. It confirms commitment that this is a conversation about change, not about wishing things were different.

What happens if you don’t ask it

Think about a time when a conversation with someone went round in circles. Or a time when you thought you were setting a goal, but you never seemed to move towards it.

Chances are you didn’t ask yourself, or the other person the most important question.

“What result do you want from this?”

Not asking this question, is like jumping on the first train you see at the station, but not knowing where it’s going, or even knowing where you WANTED to go!


Four Tips to Greater Perseverance

It’s so easy to give up on a project/job/relationship when the going gets tough. But the times when we feel like throwing in the towel are usually the very times when we are closest to achieving our goals. To help you, Chris and Gina discuss ways in which you can re-engage your will to gather momentum and succeed.

The 4 R’s of Perseverance are:

1.   Reconnect

2.   Realistic

3.   Resourcefulness

4.  Reignite momentum

It’s July already! Review time…

If you run your own company – perhaps it’s even listed – then you will know all about half-year financial reviews. Not exactly an audit but a review of the balance sheet, discussions with staff, total income, cash flow and changes in equity. Essentially a mechanism by which accountants can see that the company is being managed correctly and can therefore provide good returns to shareholders.Continue reading

Stretch, Stumble… and Succeed!

The month of November has seen me embark on a challenge of great passion, purpose and perspective – unlike anything I’ve ever committed myself to before.

It was always going to be a wild challenge, and early on it grew a tail as well as threatening teeth & claws! But it has taken all my resources as a coach and a life-long learner to stick with it. The challenge is to write 30,000 words in 30 days – which is quite a stretch from the only other piece of lengthy writing I’ve done (6,000 words over a few months). I started with one month of research, followed by one month of planning, and yet November has still felt under-prepared.Continue reading

A very special guest

On this show I talk to someone very special indeed! One of our listeners has agreed to take a huge step outside her comfort zone and speak with me about the podcast, personal development and her own experience.