Rethinking Your Family Roles

Family Tree. VTda.infoFor most of us, we learn our family roles at a young age as we try to discover our place in the world, and they stick with us for the rest of our lives.

But whether good, bad, indifferent or confusing, we don’t have to inherit the roles established through youth or circumstance… we can choose to rethink the roles we want to play within our family.

And ‘family’ can refer to the people you choose to surround yourself with, not just your biological relatives, despite the oft-quoted adage that “you can choose your friends but not your family”. So what are these family roles we adopt, and why would we want to change them?

What are family roles?

I think of them as any physical, emotional or relational tie that we have to our family as a whole, or to individual members. They can be labels we take on, behaviours we repeat or feelings we associate with our family.

An example of some of the roles I’ve inherited are: black sheep, big sister, rule-breaker/boundary-stretcher, courageous (if a little crazy), rebellious daughter, golden granddaughter and international jet-setter. There are many more, and you would perhaps get a different list if you asked my family members to provide it instead, but these are roles that have affected my relationships with all of my family and that I accepted as part of my identity.

It is the last of these – international jet-setter – that has caused me to rethink my family roles recently in my 12th year of living overseas.

Understanding & Changing Them

I realised that part of me had assumed that ‘international’ also meant ‘distant’ Continue reading

All I want for Christmas is YOU (and your friends)

All I want for Christmas is for you to have a wonderful time and celebrate your festive socks off.

Spend time with friends, family or even if you are working, have an amazing time.

If I did have just one wish though it would be to have you tell your friends and family about Action Podcast and have them listen to one of our podcasts or browse through our blog posts. Let them know there is a free ebook ready and waiting for them too!


Festive Stress-Buster

If you are anything like me then the experience of going shopping in the lead up to Christmas can be a pretty stressful activity. Aside from the chaos and overwhelm of so many people jostling about, or trying to find the perfect presents without breaking the budget, or organising food for the festive season – there’s also the stress of family get-togethers, dealing with adverse weather conditions and the risk of over-indulgence in food or drink or both!

But there is a simple solution…Continue reading

There Is A Light At The End Of The Tunnel

Tunnel under Plzen
Two people I know, quite independently, are going through the crappiest time right now. Both of them are under the threat of losing everything. Their homes being their main worry.

I wish I could tell them everything will be fine by the time they wake up tomorrow, but it won’t.

I wish I could ease their burden by taking away or fixing some significant part of their problems, but that’s just not possible.

I wish I knew exactly the right words to say: one magic phrase to help them through this. Sadly, I’m not magician.Continue reading

Giving Advice

Have you ever avoided telling someone something, because you knew as soon as you did they would start telling you what you have to do to fix it? Especially with close friends, family and loved ones. Their advice is always well intended but sometimes you might just need to get things off your chest to help you think things through. The last thing you need is someone giving you their words of wisdom before you have even finished giving them the facts!

In this show Sam and Paul go though some of the pros and the cons of giving advice and when not to. It can be confusing knowing when to give or receive advice, so giving people the heads up before you start can make the whole conversation take on a different slant. We also cover how to deal with unwelcome advice without burning your bridges and upsetting people, which can all too easily happen as you’ll hear!

A Little Thing Called ‘Love’

How comfortable are you with expressing your love?
Do you cringe, mumble or by-pass the moment? Or do you boldly state your affection regardless of scenario?
— In fact, what actually is that little thing called ‘love’?

Sam and Paul talk about their definitions of love, and different ways in which you can tell the special people in your life how much you care for and appreciate them!