Do You Need To Be Right (all the time?)

Human nature being the funny old beast that it is, many of us can relate to the ‘need to be right at all times’ line of thinking. My way or the highway… that peculiarly single-minded, defensive approach when connecting with others.

Closing our mind’s to others’ opinions can actually drive them away. It can also stymie our personal growth and limit knowledge and self-awareness, as illustrated by philosopher Edward de Bono:

‘The need to be right all the time is the biggest bar to new ideas. It is better to have enough ideas for some of them to be wrong than to be always right by having no ideas at all.’Continue reading

To why or not to why, that is the question

Very early on in our coaching training we are warned to stay away from asking out clients “why?”

Why did you do that?

Why didn’t you do what you said you would?

The reason being is that this type of questioning normally results in the client having to justify themselves and can put them in a defensive stance. This frame of mind is the type of situation we find ourselves in, often as children but not exclusively, when we are asked to explain something.
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