Perspective & Getting Back On Track

After a few months off from regular podcasting, the ActionPodcast crew are back!

In this show, Chris and Paul discuss the importance of periodically stepping back and taking stock of what is really most important. Sometimes we all need to hit the reset button, take an honest look at our priorities, and put some things on “pause”.

And doing that often requires courage to make decisions to let go of things that are holding you back. In this discussion, Chris references an article from the NY Times on “The Busy Trap” which can be found here.

We also talk about what we’ve been up to and our plans for the future.

We’d love to hear your suggestions for topics and your success stories. Please share in the comments below or on our Facebook page.

 

 

 

 

Why Your Problem Isn’t Going Away

Do you have a problem or challenge that seems to continually behave like an uninvited guest in your life?

Those extra 10lbs around your waist line?

That annoying boss that is always micro-managing your every move?

That credit card debt that is quietly growing, not shrinking?

We all have “problems” that can be a constant thorn in our side and cause of frustration, disappointment or even depression.

But if it’s sticking around in your life longer than you want or need it to, you’ve got to ask WHY?

WHY does it continue to persist?

WHY have you allowed it to persist?

Despite all the resasons you might give, and what you say when you vent to your partner or best friend, they may not be the “right” reasons.

Changing something can be hard and when we face change we fight against our natural tendencies for maintaining our internal status quo.

We are hardwired for self-preservation. Some say that’s evolutionary, some say it’s passed down from generations. Either way, what research shows is that we are designed to conserve as much as possible…calories, physical energy, mental energy, emotional energy, etc.

In other words, we like the path of least resistance and this directly affects the decisions we make and the action we take.

And because we like the path of least resistance we generally respond to change in one of four ways:

a. Procrastinate – we intellectually know – and emotionally, are acutely aware – that something is off in our lives but we decide we can delay taking action until some later time (and be no worse off). It may not feel like a decision, but our behaviour shows that we have decided to not take the action necessary to resolve it.

b. Rationalize – we acknowledge the conflict but downplay it in our mind. We justify the problem for the time being even if it still stings but are convincing enough to allow it to persist. “It’s only 5lbs but I’m not as heavy as I was in 2008 and I don’t have any big social obligations coming up so I’ll just wear my bagging clothes until I need to change…”

c. Suppress – we try to completely ignore it or push it out of our minds. We turn our attention to more pressing matters, or convenient distractions that we can find in the moment. Chocolate or the office sweets jar are a common reprieve from the discomfort.

d. Accept – we acknowledge it yet tell ourselves that this is the way things are and there’s no point trying to change it. We adopt learned helplessness and play victim to the situation rendering us incapable of making it better. It may feel like that is true but this approach can erode our self-esteem, self-worth and resourcefulness to find a way…because there’s always a way if we want it badly enough.

When we engage in any of these behaviours we are effectively resolving our conflict in the moment but the reality is we’re not solving anything. It feels like we are because the tension goes away but we’re only delaying the eventual solution.

And when your action is only aimed at resolving your inner conflict (e.g. your feelings of stress, worrying, frustration, disappointment, etc) in the moment but don’t actually move closer to eliminating the real issue, you are directly and undeniably encouraging your problem to stick around.

So when you ask WHY the challenge continues to be present in your life, start measuring yourself against these four common responses.

  • Are you exhibiting one or more of these behaviours more than you should?
  • Are you doing it consciously and actively avoiding having to face the issue head on?
  • Or were you doing it unconsciously but now you can see how you are contributing to the lingering nature of the problem?

It’s time to take back control of yourself and be more mindful of how you respond to problems.

Just as you trained yourself to take the path of least resistance, you can train yourself to take the path of most effectiveness. You can make your default reaction more conscious, more honest, more courageous, more resourceful and cut off the chance of it sticking around longer than it needs to.

Which in turn, means you will have more energy and optimism for the things that really matter to you and to work on becoming the person you want to be.

If this post resonated with you, tell us why? How do you tend to respond and what do you think you could do differently in the future. Leave us a comment below or post on our facebook page.

 

Awaken The Olympian Within

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Yes, the British population and most of us Londoners have been on a high for the last week or so with the massive medal haul at the Olympic games.

In every country, the headlines are celebrating the new heroes, role models and sudden stars. The broadcasters and publishers are scrambling to dig up childhood photos, videos and heart-warming stories of the struggles and commitment that rocketed the kid-next-door to become the nation’s new idol.

Beyond all the media hype and the competitive arena, what lessons can we take from the incredible exhibition of human potential?

Unfortunately, most people will conclude – without much consideration whatsoever – is that this athletic talent is a genetic gift and those accomplishments are only for special people. Nothin’ to do with me.

But more and more research and studies are consistently showing that it is learned talent, not gifted talent that fuels most high achievers. Like Daniel Coyle writes in [amazon ASIN=”0099519852″]The Talent Code[/amazon] and Matthew Syed writes in [amazon ASIN=”0007350546″]Bounce[/amazon], the qualities of commitment, discipline, passion, conviction, confidence and belief are the REAL deal makers.

So building on that, how can you awaken your inner Olympian?Continue reading

It’s Time to Face Your Elephant

 

Do you find yourself taking care of a lot of fairly small, quite inconsequential things when there is a really big issue that trying to get your attention?

A difficult conversation, situation or an old issue that knocks your confidence?

We all do it at times and in this podcast, Chris and Paul discuss WHY this happens and more importantly, what you can DO to face the ‘elephant in your room’ with greater ease, confident and success than you’re currently imagining.

We’d love to hear your experiene on how you’ve been able to overcome those big challenging situations so please leave a comment on this page.Continue reading