Time Is Flying By…Time to Take BOLD Steps

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Are you amazed at how quickly time seems to be passing? Worried that December will be here again and you won’t have taken action towards making those longed-for changes in your life? Perhaps it’s time to ditch the baby steps and push yourself out of your comfort zone!

Chris and Gina discuss ways you can begin to take big, bold steps – and calculated risks – towards creating the life you’d love. If you wanted to increase your happiness quotient by 10x – what could you do TODAY to get the ball rolling?

Head First – Giant Leaps Out of Your Comfort Zone

Leap of Faith - Krabi ThailandIn a previous blog post, Gina shared some tips for stepping out of your comfort zone especially in the face of fear & uncertainty; and in another, Chris looked at how staying in your comfort zone can lead to The Greatest Regret You May Ever Have. But for my first post in months, I wanted to be ambitious and explore those times when we need to truly jump head first…

With a giant leap of faith.

Throw ourselves into the deep-end.

And take massive steps out of our comfort zones.

It is scary though. Some people might never choose to face these leaps head on; but some of us do, and throughout our lives have chosen to step massively outside our comfort zone. Why is this so?

Why Leap Outside Of Your Comfort Zone?

The inspirational idea of “feel the fear and do it anyway” offers us ways to challenge our negative thinking, in order to move from feeling stuck or overwhelmed to happier and more assertive, but there are also times when no amount of logic or positive intention can shift us out of the rut we find ourselves in.

A lot of the time, confidence comes from the actual doing of something – not from the desire to do it, or even necessarily the preparation towards doing it. So by choosing to leap forwards into the unknown, we are automatically giving ourselves a confidence boost. We create the sense of being confident or of achieving confidence specifically because we’re doing something so radical – something we have no idea if we’ll succeed at! Whereas, sometimes the pressure of preparation and trying to work up the courage to do something simply ends up adding to it’s sense of overwhelming terror.

So instead of staying stuck, or struggling against the tide, there is on occasion a time and a place for a more avant garde approach…

I think of it as my “balls to the wall” approach!Continue reading

The Hidden Threat in Your Comfort Zone

Comfort zone and where the magic happensThe comfort zone sometimes gets a bad rap for being a place where we don’t escape much.

It can be a safe haven for security and safety where good things and good feelings run freely, where we don’t have to extend ourselves or risk too much embarrassment.

Yet life isn’t always so grand in the comfort zone and in fact, there is often a dark shadow lurking like a mysterious character in your favourite horror film.

You don’t always see it and life can go on around it but there are clear times you can sense its presence.

It’s the only reason you haven’t got what you truly want in life:

On some level, in some way, you’ve become comfortable with what makes you uncomfortable.

You might be uncomfortable with your body but have gotten used to the feeling of tight jeans or feeling bloated.

Perhaps you are regularly frustrated with your boss or colleagues and have had to learn to not only endure their daily ineptitude but endure your own daily discontent.

Is your bank account far from where you want it to be leaving you to accept regular overdrafts rather than putting in a smart saving plan or find a way to earn more income while reducing costs.

The more you allow yourself to bear with situations and things that take your further away from your goals and dreams, the more you train yourself to settle.

Settle for less than you’re capable of and way less than you deserve. Resign yourself to less fulfilment. Learn to stomach less happiness.

So right now is the right time to face up to what’s no longer worth putting up with.

It’s time to raise the standards of what is acceptable for you.

It may not be easy to change your experience overnight but you can change your perspective immediately. As is usually the case, big change starts with small steps.

Find something today to give you a small victory and take a stance for your standards.

Make a better, more nourishing food choice. Get off the bus early and walk a little further. Put a little money into your savings account each week. Be confident in having a crucial conversation.

And all the while, start to embrace being uncomfortable again. You deserve it and you’ll be grateful you did.

Leave us a comment and share what you would like to take a stance for in your life. What standards would you like to raise? And how can we help you to do just that?  We’d love to hear from you.

The Greatest Regret You May Ever Have

A little while ago I came across a piece of research on octogenarians – people who have reached their 80’s.

The one question that stood out for me provided a simple but profound insight into how I should approach my life now, to prevent me from having the same regret after experiencing more than 80% of my life.

The question was this: When you look back on the life that you’ve lived, what is your greatest regret?

What do YOU think was the #1 answer across the large survey?Continue reading

Move out of your comfort zone

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It’s a great phrase, ‘comfort zone’. It sounds so familiar, so safe, so secure.  A sure haven where we can rest a while – for centuries even – and never leave. So instead of taking risks, stepping out and seeing what we really are capable of in life, we tend to expand our comfort zones. Ever increasing circles. Ever decreasing opportunities. Clever, or so our mind thinks, but not a very practical nor far sighted life strategy. Believe me, there are times when I’ve stayed in mine for years. And serve me it has not.

So how can we mitigate the reptilian fears that come up every time a new opportunity in life arises, or new challenges, whether they be work, relationships, moving home, moving country?Continue reading

A very special guest

On this show I talk to someone very special indeed! One of our listeners has agreed to take a huge step outside her comfort zone and speak with me about the podcast, personal development and her own experience.