How To Put An End To Wasting Time

We think many of our listeners can relate to this scenario — you’ve got lots of things to do and want to get them done but after a few hours of activity, you just don’t feel any productivity. Rather than energised by a sense of achievement, you’re floundering in a swamp of frustration.

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how intelligent, driven or committed to the cause you are, there are days (or weeks) where you feel like you’re getting nowhere.

In this podcast, Paul and Chris take on resolving this challenge as posed to us by one of our listeners.

Time management is an ongoing quest for many people and yet it’s always the wrong quest. You can’t manage time, you can only manage yourself.

And specifically, you can manage your state, your focus, your energy and your clarity.

Paul and Chris provide great tips and practical actions to break out of any frustration and turn confusion into victory.

Let us know what you will do differently after listening to this podcast. Leave us a comment below or on our Facebook page.

Head First – Giant Leaps Out of Your Comfort Zone

Leap of Faith - Krabi ThailandIn a previous blog post, Gina shared some tips for stepping out of your comfort zone especially in the face of fear & uncertainty; and in another, Chris looked at how staying in your comfort zone can lead to The Greatest Regret You May Ever Have. But for my first post in months, I wanted to be ambitious and explore those times when we need to truly jump head first…

With a giant leap of faith.

Throw ourselves into the deep-end.

And take massive steps out of our comfort zones.

It is scary though. Some people might never choose to face these leaps head on; but some of us do, and throughout our lives have chosen to step massively outside our comfort zone. Why is this so?

Why Leap Outside Of Your Comfort Zone?

The inspirational idea of “feel the fear and do it anyway” offers us ways to challenge our negative thinking, in order to move from feeling stuck or overwhelmed to happier and more assertive, but there are also times when no amount of logic or positive intention can shift us out of the rut we find ourselves in.

A lot of the time, confidence comes from the actual doing of something – not from the desire to do it, or even necessarily the preparation towards doing it. So by choosing to leap forwards into the unknown, we are automatically giving ourselves a confidence boost. We create the sense of being confident or of achieving confidence specifically because we’re doing something so radical – something we have no idea if we’ll succeed at! Whereas, sometimes the pressure of preparation and trying to work up the courage to do something simply ends up adding to it’s sense of overwhelming terror.

So instead of staying stuck, or struggling against the tide, there is on occasion a time and a place for a more avant garde approach…

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3 Ways to Identify Your Strengths

Over the last decade there have been many significant advances in our understanding of how to achieve and become our best.

The modern world has evolved beyond the over-simplified advice of positive thinking, have a goal and dream big. While those still are part of the recipe for success, they alone aren’t the missing link between what you have and what you want.

One of the fundamental shifts in performance management – especially as it relates to your career or job success – is the movement away from working hard to overcome your weaknesses and rather, put greater emphasis on amplifying your strengths.

But the challenge within that is knowing your strengths well enough, and knowing which ones to amplify the most for the greatest results.

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In this podcast, Paul and Chris provide three ways (in rising order of complexity) to breakdown what you do, identify your true strengths and decide where you put your time and effort.

One of the most powerful approaches is to use the Challenge vs Skills dimensions popularised by psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi in his groundbreaking book [amazon_link id=”0061339202″ target=”_blank” ]Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience[/amazon_link]. Below is a graph that identifies the components and can be used as a practical exercise to get you clearer on when, how and why you excel where you do.

Listen to this podcast now and let us know what you’ve discovered are your strengths…and how you plan to use them to achieve even more this year. Leave a comment below or on our Facebook page.

 

Do You Have Trouble Putting Yourself First?

In today’s podcast, Paul and Gina look at the sometimes thorny issue of putting your own needs first in times of stress or change. This could be during exams, moving house, the end or beginning of a relationship, changing location or changing jobs.
Often we’ve been brought up to believe that putting our own needs first is selfish. But this is NOT TRUE!
Sometimes it’s essential to create boundaries, albeit temporary ones, and let people know that you love them, but you’ve got your own stuff to deal with for a bit. You love them, but you need some ‘me time’ right now.

Partners, friends and relatives won’t generally mind – as long as you’ve communicated clearly and directly with them why you’ll not be so available for a bit. And if they do, this great quote from Bernard Baruch will be helpful:
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Quick Tips for Managing Stress

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Stress management is one of the most important skills everyone  must learn and master. In today’s world, stress is inevitable and the only chance we have at dealing with it successfully, is by learning how to manage it.

Depending on the levels of stress, a person may have varying symptoms. Many people experience sleeplessness, lack of appetite, back, and neck pains, mental fatigue, and other early signs of health deterioration. People who are constantly under a lot of stress are often cranky, irritable, always on the verge of anger; they are miserable, and ultimately unhappy.

The worst thing is you end up unable to focus, your work productivity suffers, you’re unable to work with your team, and are always fearful and anxious about practically everything. Most people have the tendency to take stress lightly. However, when left unaddressed, stress can have severe effects on a person’s overall health, productivity, and countenance.

Below are some very practical tips on how to manage stress.

  • You need to be on the lookout for early signs of stress. Do you work nonstop? Are you always anxious? Do you have less time for family because you’re always working? Do you have poor sleep? All these are early signs of stress that you need to manage immediately. Talk to your partner, friend, work colleague or coach about your need for work-life balance and assess your own habits to see what you need to improve.

  • Get physical. Try to integrate exercise, enough rest, and social activities into your daily life. Read books, take walks, eat good food, and get to bed on time. Developing your physical and emotional health will help you battle stress when it comes. When you see early signs of stress creep in, get back to your routine of activities, rest, and socialisation, and keep at it.

  • Organize your priorities. Perform tasks in order of importance and urgency – by doing this you will be able to accomplish more with less stress. Don’t forget to delegate tasks to others, you can’t do everything on your own or you will end up burning yourself out, allow people to help you.

  • Time management is critical to stress management. Make a timetable of responsibilities and tasks, and make sure you include time for family, social activities, and personal time. Do not over schedule tasks in a single day; spread them out wisely so you do not fall into stress.

  • Stay positive. Stop complaining and whining about things. Fill your mind with positive thoughts instead of self-defeating thoughts. You need to learn to motivate yourself and encourage yourself every day. Start your day with some simple meditation, and just have fun with work. Never lose your passion and allow stress to move in.

 

Are You Emotionally Connected to Your Dreams and Goals?

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But by engaging all your senses – smell, sight, touch and hearing – and using your imagination (a very powerful tool) you’d be amazed at what you can create.

Gina plans to create her home in France… so instead of just having a visual image of the house, she is using her other senses to connect with her desired end result.

How do you emotionally connect with your goals and dreams?

When The Going Gets Tough, How Do You Get Going?

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Are you having a tough time?

Everything seems like hard work?

Nothing going right?

What do you do to turn things around?

It’ a situation that a lot of people can relate to. External circumstances can really take their toll. It might feel like the world is against you sometimes, so how do you pull yourself out of this vicious circle?

A lot of it relates to being more conscious of what options are available to you. It’s more likely that changing your own perception will have a more dramatic impact that anything else you could do.

We aren’t suggesting that you need to be all “Happy Clappy” but going in with a more neutral or just a less emotional point of view, then you’re going to become the voice of reason. Whilst everyone else around you seems to be losing their heads!

Listen to the podcast to find out more on how to manage, when the going gets tough.

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Productivity and the Importance of Focus

Do you know what it takes for you to be really focused on what matters?

Do you know what makes the difference between your ‘good’ days and ‘scattered’ or ‘overwhelmed’ or ‘totally unproductive’ days?

If you don’t know this already, you are missing a massive trick to getting things done.

In this podcast, Chris and Paul discuss why focus is critical but increasingly difficult to maintain.

According to The Energy Project – an organisation that helps individuals, leaders and team to sustain high performance – the greatest drain on our energy in the modern workplace is our mental energy. This is our ability to remain focused on the task at hand while not giving in to instant gratification of switching tasks, checking emails or being drawn into an unnecessary conversation.

[Note: you can check how you do against the global average by taking The Energy Audit right now. It’s free and only takes a few minutes.]

By surrounding yourself with the right environment, tools and mindset to start the day, you can easily feel significant improvement in your focus, productivity and daily fulfillment.

Paul and Chris give practical tips and tools to help you do this more consistently.

Let us know what you do to get, and stay, focused. Leave us a comment below or post on our Facebook page. We’d love to hear from you.

Dangers of Perfectionism

Tempus fugit! Perfectionist[1]Or as most of us say now, time flies! And it really is flying by… March already. Christmas seems a lifetime away and we will soon be in Spring.

This has to be the fastest flying year EVER! And I know it’s got nothing to do with me being 1. busier 2. older – time really is speeding up. Or at least my perception of time is changing. And I’m not the only one – children I know have also told me their school holidays seem to be coming round faster, while friends of more advanced ages are also bemoaning the fact that we’re on a speed-up.

Talking of speed, I read last night that the earth is actually hurtling around the Sun at the mind-boggling speed of 18.5 miles per second. Now that’s what I call fast!  Continue reading

Up Your Average

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Jim Rohn – “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

How do you tell when it’s time to up your average?

Paul and Chris discuss how often their clients talk to them about increasing their social circle. They feel stagnant and want to get more out of life but feel limited by either the small number of friends that they have, or that the people they do hang around with don’t seem to motivate them to try anything new. It’s just the same old thing day in and day out.

Whether you want to improve your salary, your quality of life, fitness or whatever it is. Have a look around you at the 5 people you spend the most time with, would you say you are the average of that group? Chances are that it is the case.

We’re not suggesting that you should dumb your entire circle of friends and just start a fresh. But more like replacing the lowest “common denominator” to increase your own average.

Maybe it’s just the motivation you need, to hang out with people who are more likely to challenge you.

Listen to the podcast to find out how tell if you need  to up your own average and how to take the simple steps to do it.