Can Coaching Help You With Chronic Pain?

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Many thanks to Carel for this topic suggestion!

“I love your podcasts — use them sometimes to wake up by or work out by.  Plus they are PRACTICAL.
Have you done, or would you please do a program on living with chronic pain? Proper lifestyle, rest, and practitioners, massages, swimming, hypnosis, meditation, staying busy, rest, acupuncture, medical management, etc. have always been part of my life— but it would be helpful to get some of your wonderful upbeat and insightful
coaching on working with this topic.

Thanks.

Keep up the action!!!”

 

 

Is Ashton Kutcher Sexy?

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Heart throb Ashton Kutcher may not be your typical personal development guru, but he’s created quite a stir after giving a rousing speech at the MTV Teen Choice Awards.

He gave the teen audience 3 great pieces of life advice. Some of them drawn specifically from his recent role playing Steve Jobs. You can also view a video of the Steve Jobs speech, that he gave at Stanford University in 2005.

1: Opportunity looks like Hard Work

2: Be “Sexy”

3: Build your own life

Whatever you think of Ashton AKA “Chris” he seems to have hit a chord with the audience and with the main stream media.

During the podcast Chris and Paul talk through the points that Ashton raises and go into more depth.

How can you add a bit more sexiness in to your life?

We’d love to know what 3 life tips would you give to a teenager.

We hope you enjoyed this podcast and would love to know your ideas for topic suggestions just contact us via our feedback page

Supporting a Friend with Low Confidence

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A great topic suggestion from Anne-Marie, who’s friend is suffering from a bout of low confidence. So what can she do to help her friend through this period of low confidence?

By first focusing on the language that both of you use, you can help them find areas in which they do have confidence. This kind of support will help your friend recognise that there are good parts and not everything is doom and gloom.

Although your friend might not have confidence in a specific task, helping them recognise their own self belief can be critical to helping them through a difficult time.

Confidence is based on being certain, to a degree, of an outcome. No matter how inconsequential it might seem. Taking baby steps can really lead to big changes over time.

With your support, your friend will have the choice to make small changes everyday so that in a few weeks, months or maybe years they will be in a better place. If they start making those changes now.

Listen to the podcast to find out how to change your focus and give you the strength to move forward.

Have you helped a friend through a period of low confidence? What worked for you and more importantly your friend? Leave a comment below or use our feedback page

Wake up Call: How to Reward Yourself the Right Way

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I’m sure most people will agree that there’s no better way to boost motivation than rewards. Each time you achieve something big, reach a goal, or move forward with a task, a little pat on the back in the form of rewards will go a long way.

However, are the so-called rewards we give ourselves healthy or helpful?

Personal goals can range from losing weight, quitting smoking, eating healthy, to completing a project or getting a big promotion. To achieve your goal requires going out of your comfort zone, pushing yourself to your limits, and taking risks. And there will be times when you’ll hit a blank wall, but there will also be times when you achieve certain milestones.

When you do achieve that milestone, the best way to celebrate and reinforce the positive behaviour is to reward yourself. Indulging in little rewards is a good reminder to not quit and keep moving forward.

You should watch and make sure that the rewards you give yourself don’t backfire on you. If your big goal is to lose weight, then don’t reward yourself with an eat-all-you-can buffet! The reward is that you lost weight, not the possibility of over eating again. Instead, reward yourself with smaller, better fitting clothes or perhaps a new gym outfit!

If you’re working to save money or get out of debt, then don’t celebrate your hard work by spending money to reward yourself. Buying something new or indulging in a shopping spree won’t help with your long term goals, in fact; it may cause you to relapse to your old spending habits! It may be a better idea if you use the money you’ve saved up to open a new investment account or simply put the money in a rainy-day piggy bank.

Be careful that your motivation doesn’t slide you backwards and away from your goal.

It happens to everyone. We get over-zealous with our achievements and want to celebrate immediately. It’s absolutely fine to give yourself a reward, but make sure you do it the right way. Here’s how:

  • Save the rewards for those big wins and milestones. There’s nothing wrong with acknowledging every little success you make and feeling motivated about it. But there’s a big difference between acknowledging success and actually rewarding them financially. Watch out that you don’t mix these terms.

  • Motivation doesn’t always have to come in material things. Think of rewards that will relax you, inspire you, and soothe your inner spirit. Be creative about it; time alone with a good book can be as good as a new gadget and it won’t cost a dime. Try giving yourself time off from work to walk your dog or take your kids out to the park.

  • Okay, if you really want to reward yourself materially by buying something, then make sure you put a ceiling on your spending limit. Don’t blow the money you saved for so long with just a single purchase to reward yourself. Celebrate getting out of debt, but try not to get yourself back in debt while you’re at it.

  • Don’t cheat by rewarding yourself anytime you feel like it. Only reward yourself when you truly deserve it, this makes the moment extra special. Don’t grab a hearty meal every time you feel like you need the motivation to keep losing weight because you never will reach your goal that way! Save the celebration when you know you truly deserve it.

  • When thinking of the best reward always choose time over food. The last thing you want is to find yourself regularly splurging on food just to reward yourself for hard work. You might soon find yourself looking for the slightest reason to splurge on food. Choose time—give yourself more time with a book, more time with friends, and family.

Have you ever given yourself a nonsensical reward just for the fun of it? Share your experiences below.

 

Quick Tips for Managing Stress

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Stress management is one of the most important skills everyone  must learn and master. In today’s world, stress is inevitable and the only chance we have at dealing with it successfully, is by learning how to manage it.

Depending on the levels of stress, a person may have varying symptoms. Many people experience sleeplessness, lack of appetite, back, and neck pains, mental fatigue, and other early signs of health deterioration. People who are constantly under a lot of stress are often cranky, irritable, always on the verge of anger; they are miserable, and ultimately unhappy.

The worst thing is you end up unable to focus, your work productivity suffers, you’re unable to work with your team, and are always fearful and anxious about practically everything. Most people have the tendency to take stress lightly. However, when left unaddressed, stress can have severe effects on a person’s overall health, productivity, and countenance.

Below are some very practical tips on how to manage stress.

  • You need to be on the lookout for early signs of stress. Do you work nonstop? Are you always anxious? Do you have less time for family because you’re always working? Do you have poor sleep? All these are early signs of stress that you need to manage immediately. Talk to your partner, friend, work colleague or coach about your need for work-life balance and assess your own habits to see what you need to improve.

  • Get physical. Try to integrate exercise, enough rest, and social activities into your daily life. Read books, take walks, eat good food, and get to bed on time. Developing your physical and emotional health will help you battle stress when it comes. When you see early signs of stress creep in, get back to your routine of activities, rest, and socialisation, and keep at it.

  • Organize your priorities. Perform tasks in order of importance and urgency – by doing this you will be able to accomplish more with less stress. Don’t forget to delegate tasks to others, you can’t do everything on your own or you will end up burning yourself out, allow people to help you.

  • Time management is critical to stress management. Make a timetable of responsibilities and tasks, and make sure you include time for family, social activities, and personal time. Do not over schedule tasks in a single day; spread them out wisely so you do not fall into stress.

  • Stay positive. Stop complaining and whining about things. Fill your mind with positive thoughts instead of self-defeating thoughts. You need to learn to motivate yourself and encourage yourself every day. Start your day with some simple meditation, and just have fun with work. Never lose your passion and allow stress to move in.

 

When The Going Gets Tough, How Do You Get Going?

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Are you having a tough time?

Everything seems like hard work?

Nothing going right?

What do you do to turn things around?

It’ a situation that a lot of people can relate to. External circumstances can really take their toll. It might feel like the world is against you sometimes, so how do you pull yourself out of this vicious circle?

A lot of it relates to being more conscious of what options are available to you. It’s more likely that changing your own perception will have a more dramatic impact that anything else you could do.

We aren’t suggesting that you need to be all “Happy Clappy” but going in with a more neutral or just a less emotional point of view, then you’re going to become the voice of reason. Whilst everyone else around you seems to be losing their heads!

Listen to the podcast to find out more on how to manage, when the going gets tough.

Comments, topic suggestions, ideas, hints & tips or just to share your own experiences, post a comment below or use any of options on our feedback page

Up Your Average

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Jim Rohn – “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

How do you tell when it’s time to up your average?

Paul and Chris discuss how often their clients talk to them about increasing their social circle. They feel stagnant and want to get more out of life but feel limited by either the small number of friends that they have, or that the people they do hang around with don’t seem to motivate them to try anything new. It’s just the same old thing day in and day out.

Whether you want to improve your salary, your quality of life, fitness or whatever it is. Have a look around you at the 5 people you spend the most time with, would you say you are the average of that group? Chances are that it is the case.

We’re not suggesting that you should dumb your entire circle of friends and just start a fresh. But more like replacing the lowest “common denominator” to increase your own average.

Maybe it’s just the motivation you need, to hang out with people who are more likely to challenge you.

Listen to the podcast to find out how tell if you need  to up your own average and how to take the simple steps to do it.

 

Learn to Overcome Your Shyness Before it Overcomes You

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Are you a shy person?

When you’re around a crowd of people you don’t know, do you sometimes wish the floor would just swallow you up? Is it your biggest fear to have to speak in front of a large audience? When you enter a room, do you want to just go unnoticed? If you were able to relate to any of these scenarios, then yes you are a shy person.

While constantly seeking attention and desiring to be in the centre of conversations are not always good, being overly shy can be just as bad. Announcing your entrance at a party can turn people off just as much as not opening you mouth and making eye contact during a conversation. Yes, it may be a challenge to strike a balance between the two, but once you learn how; you’ll see just how easy it actually is and how much better your social life and relationships will be!

There are many reasons why a person feels overly shy. In many cases, people feel too conscious about themselves—what they’re wearing, how they look, and their speech all these result to feeling so awkward and shy in front of people. There are also other who have such a negative self-evaluation that they feel they will never measure up to people’s expectations, thus they feel extremely shy facing people.

Again, it’s okay to feel shy every once in a while but when that feeling starts to take over your life and hinder your actions then it becomes wrong.

Below are a few quick tips on how to overcome that feeling of shyness before it overcomes you.

  1. Stop feeling self-conscious. Unbelievably the people around you are all too busy with their own concerns to even notice and scrutinise you.

  1. Acknowledge your strengths. What are you good at? Focus on it instead of what you think you lack.

  1. Stop trying to conform to everyone. Just be yourself and accept that you have your own awkwardness. That’s fine.

  1. Release your anxieties through physical activities. Always feeling self-conscious are signs of anxiety. Release the pressure through jogging and working out.

  1. Affirm yourself of your strengths and capabilities. Dwell on these instead of always sulking on the things that you think you’re too weak at.

  1. Never take rejection personally. Remember you are not the only one who experiences rejection, we all do. There’s really nothing personal about it. 

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others. You may never measure up to the smartest or most popular person at work, but believe it or not, you also have strengths that other people desire. So stop comparing yourself or setting standards that are too high to achieve. Love yourself for who you are! 

  1. Build on your social skills. Practice being around people and interacting with them. This will help boost your self-confidence. You may still have episodes of shyness, but just keep practicing and you’ll get better.

  1. Learn to accept your weaknesses. No one is perfect, even the person you most admire isn’t, so stop trying to be one. Just accept that you have you own shortcomings. We all do.

  1. The next time you’re in front of people or in a social gathering and you begin having episodes of uncontrollable shyness, take deep breaths to calm yourself.

 

Change the Rules

Do you ever find yourself wishing you could do things but they just seem so far our of your reach they are even worth trying?

Paul and Gina talk about taking some advice from Tim Ferris to “Change the Rules”

When Paul decided he wanted to write a book so time ago, he struggled with the dread of having to start such a mammoth task from scratch. But after going to see Tim Ferris speak in London, Paul decides to change his on rules in what it takes to create a book. Looking back over the years Paul has written many blog posts and has decided to use these as a foundation for his book.

To get things going Paul is using the Scrivener app to collect all the parts of his book and turn it into something that works. You can have a look and download the program for windows or Mac’s from their website:-

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What have you been putting off, that you felt was simply unachievable? How could you change the rules to make it happen?

Enjoying the Journey

All too often we find ourselves rushing so fast to our next task or goal that we can often miss the experience of the journey.

Paul talks to Gina about her latest mission to relocate to the South of France. Although there are lots of things to think about and organise, it’s really important, at times like this, to take a moment and really recognise the journey you are on.

If you were to ask yourself, what are you enjoying right now about your journey would you be able to list 2 or 3 things?

Listen to the show and find out more

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