Resistance to Change: new YouTube video
Do you tend to see resistance to change as a problem to be fixed or an obstacle to be overcome?
If we can change our perspective on it slightly, resistance to change can be useful and positive rather than a hindrance and negative.
Our resistance then becomes a helpful tool or message, and can open up a range of new options.
RESISTANCE TO CHANGE – WHAT IS IT REALLY?
People resist change when they perceive it – consciously or unconsciously – as a threat.
Sometimes, these perceived threats can be quite obvious or easily identified. But these threats and fears can at times be very subtle, hidden or even counter-intuitive – especially when dealing with self growth, personal development or more immediate challenges.
Resistance to change often shows up as an almost physical block – a really strong sensation that wants you to run in the opposite direction or avoid it at all costs!
We don’t always spot the fear that underlies our strong response. It might be triggered by a new idea or a positive change we want to make that somehow threatens our sense of identity, confidence or connection with others.
Resistance to change is distinct from ‘gut-feeling’ intuition which gently but insistently guides you away from something. It is more the ‘sucker-punch’ sense of fear – an intense & emotional response – that drives resistance to change.
Ironically, when we experience resistance to change, it is usually an indicator that this is exactly what we need right now!
We subconsciously perceive it as a major threat purely because it is so pertinent!
It might be telling us is that we are on the right track, and that there is some fear we need to examine in order to achieve a huge breakthrough and move forwards.
Once we identify and acknowledge the fear, it loses a lot of its power over us; whilst a hidden fear has the ability to sabotage our change attempts – no matter how much we think we want them.
So when we can recognise our resistance to change, we are receiving a vital message that can assist our development. Exploring the fears behind resistance to change can help identify concerns or challenges and open up alternative solutions or entirely new opportunities.
HOW CAN WE USE RESISTANCE TO CHANGE?
Awareness is always the first step, so begin by learning to identify how it shows up – it will vary for each of us, so you need to understand how resistance to change feels for you.
It is then helpful to acknowledge your resistance, and that it might contain a useful message for you.
Be gentle with yourself, and explore what the underlying fear might be that your resistance is signalling.
When we can identify the fear that caused our resistance to change we diminish its impact. And, sometimes simply acknowledging the resistance allows us to continue taking steps forward that dissolve the fear and lead to the action and change we desire.
We’d love to hear how resistance to change shows up for you, and how well to think you catch it when it does!