As someone who has suffered through the effects of perfectionism most of my life, it was really liberating to write out a mantra recently that epitomises a more nurturing (and effective) alternative:
“This is pretty good; I think I’ll keep going.”
This one came from [amazon ASIN=”0330343580″]The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron[/amazon], and is one of many affirmations, techniques and perspectives that have helped me loosen the grip of perfectionism that had stopped me achieving much, let alone my best.
I know the other ActionCoaches have also struggled with the need to be perfect from time to time, so here is a collection of some of our top insights into how to live a more effective and fulfilled lifeContinue reading
Refresher on the roller coaster of life!
Sometimes it feels like we’re swinging from one extreme to the other – one moment careening towards a crash, and a moment later, struggling up the mountain without a clear view of when (or if) we’ll reach the top.
Life can feel like a rollercoaster ride of heady peaks and stomach-churning troughs, and whilst we would all be terribly bored if it was just a flat track to the horizon… wouldn’t it be great if we could learn to balance out those pendulum-swings just a little? Even-it-up a bit so that it flowed more smoothly, and we could actually start to enjoy the ride?
Sam joins Paul on his train-journey of discovery into how we can keep the momentum and motivation flowing when we need it most!
I was working with a client recently and no matter how I initially phrased my question on what action they wanted to take, the answer I got was: “I want to be…” or “I want to have…”
Every time I received these kinds of answers I had to remind the client that coaching is all about taking action; simply stating what you want to be or have (or feel) isn’t going to make it happen. Only an action that you carry out will help to create your desired end result.Continue reading
If you ever felt nervous or lacking confidence before an event – like a presentation to an audience, a performance on stage or simply picking up the phone and making an important phone call – you know how challenging that can feel.
In this podcast, Chris and Sam discuss a simple, practical and very effective strategy to quickly regain confidence and make you feel like a superstar before being in the spotlight. They provide two proven ways to achieve this…and it takes less than five minutes!
Leave us a comment and let us know how this works for you and what situation you’d like to have more confidence next time.
Frequently at the mercy of information overload, I find myself placing greater value on “bite-sized” pieces of information. Not only are they more accessible – I’m far more likely to read, watch or listen to them in the first place – but they are also likely to be more effective at the same time.
Condensing an idea or thought into its key essence without losing meaning is an important skill, yet we can become complacent in our communication.
Have you sent or received an ambiguous “txt msg” lately that could be misunderstood? Continue reading
If there was a boy scout badge, professional certification or ‘lifetime achievement award’ for procrastination, would you nominate yourself (…if you could find the time, of course)?
Does watching this video make you wonder if the creator was peeping in through your windows watching how you navigate through the day?
Well, if you’re laughing or feeling a bit uncomfortable at how much you relate to the above comments, then perhaps it’s time to really take a look at your procrastinating skills in a new light.Continue reading
“I’d never believe something without questioning it first!” … Really? … Never?
When we hold a belief that is so absolute there is no escaping it, this has real consequences for who we are, how we behave and how we react to situations or people. Yet we don’t always realise we are being so totalitarian.
Even if we catch ourselves uttering definitive sentences, we might wonder why it matters – “So what if I think all women love shopping?” or “So what if I believe relationships always end badly?” or “I’ve never been any good at maths, why should I care now?”
Rather than suggest it is absolutely necessary, Paul and Sam simply suggest it might be worth exploring a belief you have that seems inflexible… join them as they share some tips for how to identify an absolute belief, and then some ways to gently challenge this – from the ridiculous to the more scientific!
You might also want to ponder: What would it mean to you if it wasn’t always true?
Many thanks to Rob for the topic suggestion that sent us down a rabbit hole, where we discovered Pandora’s Box!
As anyone who’s had flu will attest, it’s bloody miserable: sledgehammer head, aching limbs, ice pick in the throat, painful sinuses. Need I say more. So as I lie here in bed with another bout of the pesky virus, feeling very sorry for myself, I have had plenty of time to think about health, fitness (mental and physical) and the importance of looking after myself. Being poleaxed has forced my body to take a rest. Something I’m not very good at. I tend to go all out and then collapse. Not the best strategy for life. I’ve got some homeopathic remedy this time to hopefully knock it on the head asap.Continue reading