Do you often compare yourself to others – then find your self-esteem plummeting? As Shakespeare himself said: ‘Comparisons are odious’. Why? Because there will always be someone taller, thinner, more beautiful and more successful than us.
The media has a lot to answer for – take a look at the insidious beauty industry and women’s magazines. When did you last pick up a glossy and feel good about yourself? Quite. Dove have successfully poked fun at the beauty industry in their brilliant ad campaigns. Check out this short video to see how the magazine designers airbrush models to death – to make them look ‘perfect’. It’s all Photoshop – in reality these models don’t ‘exist’.
In today’s podcast, Paul and Gina look at ways we can combat the ‘comparison game’ and come out on top.
Being a coach, I’m very keen to “walk the talk” or rather, not just say coaching is good but have a coach myself because I know just how powerful it can be.
During a recent session it quickly became clear that I was on the verge of taking on too much. Over the last few months the power of being coached has resulted in some significant changes in my life and how I view situations. I’d been actively putting in a lot of work, spinning a lot of plates and generally been about as busy as I could physically be.
What surprised me was that I’ve now reached a point where pretty much everything is going to plan, on track and on schedule. I found myself looking for that extra thing that would put me back into the sensation of feeling, well rushed, busy and on the edge of coping.
I had become so used to “working my butt off” that now I had been able to schedule things better, automate them or even outsource them (my new favourite thing!) I was presented with a strange feeling of “what next?”!
Thankfully working with my coach I was able to see that, I was busy, very busy in fact. I was however, working smarter, better than before and I was now producing the results without having to work 16 hours a day. Ultimately I want to keep it this way, working at a pace that is healthy and even FUN! As long as I’m still progressing, make moves in the direction that I want to go at a pace that works, then I’m doing the right thing.
I’d love to hear from others that have almost become so used to feeling rushed, that they often end up missing that feeling when everything is going to plan. What do you do to make sure you don’t overload yourself, just because you feel you should. How do you know when enough is enough?
We all know someone who seems to struggle to accept compliments. Brushing them off or negating them with an offhanded comment back, as if they are not worthy of the praise. In this podcast Paul and Chris discuss how you can become better at accepting compliments and gifts from others in ways that not only make you feel better, but also encourage people (including yourself) to give and accept these gifts even more.
It’s official – it is contagious. Not only did I shock myself recently by writing about politics, but now I’m doing something else I never thought I’d do: writing about football!
There’s a long-term rivalry in my household, with my little brother and I referring to the sport as soccer, and my other half staunchly calling it football. Whilst it is fun to wind Cam up about the name, it was really moot point as I had absolutely no interest in the game and even less chance of watching it. So I’ve really been happily oblivious to the last few weeks of World Cup Fever.
Have you ever found yourself trying to justify a decision you have made, but weren’t able to? By asking yourself “So what?” you can build up your own conscious reasoning as to why, what, when and how you can to a certain decision.
Sam and Paul as the question of “So what?” to challenge themselves before someone else does!
One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is to stop. Stop chasing deadlines, stop pushing harder, faster and just…just slo-o-o-o-o-o-o-w down…to a full stop. Spend a bit of quality time with yourself to take stock of what’s working and what’s not. Are you able to spend time on the things that really matter, that you really want to do (or at least a good portion of your time on these things)?
Research shows that people that are stressed and overwhelmed spend less than 25% of their time on things that are fulfilling to them. This can be at work and at home and at play. Are you being distracted from the important? Under demand from other people’s requests? Continue reading
If you follow me ( Paul ) on Twitter ( twitter.com/lifcoach ) then you’ll know that recently I was rushed to hospital, as it turns out, I was passing a 4mm kidney stone. Now, I’m told that this is the closest pain to childbirth. Considering the amount of pain killers I was given, I certainly believe it was pretty close!
During my experience, I found myself on several occasions that I had to “check-in” with myself. I was finding that whilst the pain came in waves, sometimes I would be so busy shouting and screaming that I’d occasionally not notice that the pain has actually subsided! It got me thinking what else am I, or other people, trying to cope with that’s actually is no longer true.
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