Can You Help Me?
Posted on 9 April, 2009 by Gina, Sam | 
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Asking for help seems to be one of those dying arts.
Something we’ve lost touch with the ability to do.
We feel uncomfortable and vulnerable;
and like we’ve failed or can’t handle the pressure.
But when it’s offered, we’re suspicious of the motive.
Whilst the perfectionist or overachiever in us cringes at the thought of requesting assistance and sharing the load, our controlling aspects can feel desperate and frustrated, and this seems to add to our stress and uncertainty.
Yet receiving help can be both a miracle and a gift – helping us to make progress and overcome challenges, whilst empowering the giver-of-help with a sense of achievement and purpose. They say two heads are better than one, so Gina & Sam put theirs’ together to explore just why asking for help is so hard, and how we can take small steps towards fruitful collaboration.
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Hi Xenia,
Wow! Thanks for your comments about the challenge of asking for help! I particularly love the way you mentioned asking for some diesel, and added some really interesting questions to the mix!
You've inspired another thought in me too - another way we can start taking small action steps towards being more comfortable in asking for help.
Start by asking yourself for help.
What one thing, if you asked yourself for help with it, would really shift a gear and get you moving just now?
You also touched on the fact that when we look after ourselves (or allow someone to help us), that we are in a better position to help others! It would be a real challenge to offer to help someone out of the quicksand, if we're stuck right in there beside them!
With love & curiosity,
Sam :)
Really enjoyed listening to the conversation between Gina and Sam. I too find it difficult to ask for a "motorbike" at times but I agree that if the asking is seen as sharing it can take the edge off and actually feel Ok to ask for some diesel now and again... Maybe to enable our daring to ask 'another' we can ask ourselves... Would we not help someone if we could? Is there anyone on this earth who has never needed help at some point? The chances are that if we have been helped along our journey we will be better placed to help in return and what better way to connect to the people around us then by sharing our humanness.
Hi Xenia,
Wow! Thanks for your comments about the challenge of asking for help! I particularly love the way you mentioned asking for some diesel, and added some really interesting questions to the mix!
You've inspired another thought in me too - another way we can start taking small action steps towards being more comfortable in asking for help.
Start by asking yourself for help.
What one thing, if you asked yourself for help with it, would really shift a gear and get you moving just now?
You also touched on the fact that when we look after ourselves (or allow someone to help us), that we are in a better position to help others! It would be a real challenge to offer to help someone out of the quicksand, if we're stuck right in there beside them!
With love & curiosity,
Sam :)
Really enjoyed listening to the conversation between Gina and Sam. I too find it difficult to ask for a "motorbike" at times but I agree that if the asking is seen as sharing it can take the edge off and actually feel Ok to ask for some diesel now and again... Maybe to enable our daring to ask 'another' we can ask ourselves... Would we not help someone if we could? Is there anyone on this earth who has never needed help at some point? The chances are that if we have been helped along our journey we will be better placed to help in return and what better way to connect to the people around us then by sharing our humanness.
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